May 21, 2017 | Word of the Day by Garrick Saito, Quora
How people perceive you is not based soley upon looks.
I have a very good friend whom I’ve known for many, many years. He is not a good looking man and while not extraordinarily grotesque looking, you’d never look at him twice if you walked past him on the street. But he’s the funniest guy I’ve ever met. Very friendly, cares about people and one of the nicest guys you’d ever want to meet. Everywhere he goes, he has this instant rapport with people he doesn’t know and can talk about virtually anything. His stories are off-the-wall entertaining and he just has a unique ability to ‘connect’ with people. Never a problem attracting the opposite sex. When we’ve met his very good-looking dates, we’d jokingly ask her, “What are you doing with this ugly bastard?”
When I met him, we were still in college working part time in direct sales. To encourage new recruits, the sales manager would ask them to get up in front of the group at sales meetings and describe why they think they made the sale.
This was his first meeting. He didn’t know a soul there. I asked him as he was standing before the group, “Why do you think you made the sale?” He replied, “Because I’m handsome!”
The entire room was in stitches and that was the start of a friendship that would last a lifetime. The moral of the story is: Don’t be so fixated on the things that you can do nothing about. You’ll make yourself crazy, if you do.
Instead, work towards continually improving yourself, be friendly and kind to people, further developing your self-esteem and personality. It goes a very long way. These things are far more important than outward appearances (which will inevitably fade in time anyway).